I was at the bagel shop the other day and there was an older woman being rude to the people on the line and to the person taking her order. It got me thinking. How easy it is (and natural!) to get into a personal narrative of someone else’s b
This can sound like: “I can see where you are coming from.” “I understand that this is important to you.” “I understand that you are angry/sad/upset and that’s okay.” You don’t have to agree with wh
Our nervous system likes things to match. When our actions don’t match our beliefs, we’re in a state of dissonance which is not only mentally stressful and takes us away from living our most me meaningful lives, it dysregulates our nervo
I wish more people knew this, and that we normalized the work that often comes up when we’re adults if we didn’t have caregivers model healthy relationships for us as children. Things like setting healthy communication norms, emotional r
Small intentions can go a very long way in shifting the energy of your relationships. Creating an intention to notice bids for connection, and lean into them, not only makes the other person feel so seen, it builds trust and intimacy. Making a poin
Taking responsibility to communicate your feelings is a hallmark of an emotionally mature person. When you’re not investing energy to guess/hint that frees up space to build transparency and intimacy. Is this something you’ve had to wor
One of the biggest motivators I have for making my bed nicely every morning is how it makes me feel when I walk back into my room later in the day and see it made. Different things regulate different people But pay attention to your senses and iden
You’ll get a lot of information about the people around you as you change, heal, and grow. Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon to get pushback from people in your life as you start to do things in a healthier, more evolved way. When you st
For whoever needs this gentle reminder today 💗. Your partner can be upset with with and still love you. You can be upset with them and still love them. The relationship doesn’t have to feel topsy turvy because there’s been a miss. F
4 gentle reminders that adult you probably had to learn if you had a difficult childhood. Which one resonates most for you today- 1,2,3, or 4? Leah 💗
I’m a big fan of the word information. It’s so easy to get sucked into a personal narrative around other people’s behaviors. Seeing it as information can help you get out of that, and make you feel more empowered so that you can t
In any relationship there are 3 parties: you, them, and the relationship itself. If you want to build something healthy and sustainable see the relationship as an investment- something you’re putting yourself into to grow. If BOTH people in t
We are all creatures of habits and patterns, and unless an individual is willing and actually does hard work, we don’t really change. We can get stuck in an endless cycle of hoping for a different outcome “this time” that is really